Couples Counseling

I long for a relationship where I feel loved, wanted, supported and respected. I want not be with someone who is going to love me for me and not try to make me into who they want me to be. I want to be heard. We love each other, but I feel like we’re growing apart and (s)he doesn’t get me anymore. We used to be so good together, my ride or die. Now I feel like I’m living with a stranger.

Does any of this sound familiar. Couples’ relationships are HARD WORK! PERIOD. It starts out all roses and sunshine and then slowly, as you begin to learn and know each other, you realize that maybe you’re not as compatible as your thought you were. Or, it was great when it was just the two of you but now there are other people who seem to be involved in your relationship – friends, in-laws, exes, you children – that they have definite opinions on your relationship.

Couples are made up of individuals who enter the relationship with their own personalities, biases, history and quirks. What may seem really cute in the beginning sometimes become very annoying and as the relationship progresses, you find yourself struggling to be as accommodating of the other person as you were in the beginning. Couples counseling helps you to figure out where things started to go wrong so that you can course correct IF that is what you want to do.

Be mindful that not every couple that comes to therapy/counseling, do so with the intent of repairing or reconciling. For some, therapy is a last resort. For others, it’s wanting to learn how to part amicably, especially if there are children involved. Whatever your reasons are for seeking help, we will work with you to achieve your goal, if it is possible.

I want couples counseling but my partner/spouse doesn’t want to?

Though there are some schools of thought that say that couples counseling must be done with couples, there are times when working with one party may create sufficient change to the negative dynamic that has developed in your relationship such that the relationship improves.

Will coming to therapy stop us from divorcing?

Couples counseling may not stop your divorce. If both parties put in the work, it could be beneficial or it could highlight reasons why separating might be the better decision. Each couple is different, and the results are based on intent and effort.

My partner is a narcissist. Can you help us?

We recognize that the term “narcissist” is used frequently to describe a particular type of behavior that may be exhibited in relationships. We will help you to identify the behaviors that are problematic in your relationship and explore changes that may help you interact more beneficially.

Our couples’ counselors use proven methods to help our clients repair their relationships. We are empathetic and objective in our engagement with our couples clients and work for the benefit of the relationship not the individual. If you are struggling in your relationship and need help, contact us today to schedule your appointment.